For the most part, people genuinely want to help. They don’t want to see you suffering. And because they don’t want to see you suffering, they offer advice, clichéd proverbs, pep talks, or distractions. Many are uncomfortable with pain and sadness and haven’t been taught how to respond truly compassionately to other people’s suffering. The list included here contains all-too-common responses someone might give in the face of someone’s suffering or conflict. Chances are you’ve heard them, or have even said them, before. Save them for later in the conversation when you feel that the person you are comforting seems ready to move on from their hurt.
