Of course, we all know this intuitively, but it can be a powerful reminder when our partner goes out of town that life goes on. By purposely filling up your time with a strong support system, you’ll be reminded that you are more than just the other half of your significant partner. Ask yourself: What are the things that I enjoy but wouldn’t normally do with my partner? Is it the new exhibition you’ve been wanting to go to, but art isn’t their thing? Dying to go to that new restaurant they’re allergic to? Now’s the time to go. These business trips can serve as built-in periods of practiced interdependence when you get to return to what you want, without having to worry about anyone else. Laying it out on the table and being vulnerable enough to say things like, “I really miss you and feel abandoned when you go out of town” can seem scary at first, but it opens up the door for a meaningful and honest discussion to take place. As your partner continues to travel and insecurities come out, know that these conversations aren’t just one and done. By feeling safe and comfortable enough to keep the lines of communication open, you are both showing up to your relationship to say, This matters, and I want to work on this with you. Opening up the dialogue will also help prevent future fights down the line, so when it’s reunion time, you can stay focused on each other.
