Here’s everything you need to know about how to sext, including tons of examples for you to try with your partner and general rules to keep in mind for an optimal sexting experience that leaves both you and your partner feeling good after being a little bad. It can be as simple as the quick recounting of a memory (“last night was so hot, I loved the way you pushed me up against the wall”), or it can be a 10-paragraph erotic novel your partner writes specifically for you via text without any expectation of a response besides a “thank you.” In addition to written messages, sexting can involve pictures, videos, or even voice messages. Like other forms of phone sex, sexting is an amazing way to connect with your partner from miles away, build sexual tension in between rendezvouses, or even explore fantasies that you may not be comfortable sharing in-person.   This is doubly important if you’re sending a sexy selfie. Think of asking for consent as a fun way to tease your partner. Try saying something like, “I just took a photo of myself post-shower, and I kind of want to send it to you…do you want to see?” Or, “I can’t stop thinking about last night, and I have an idea for what I want to do to you next time. Can I tell you what I’m thinking?” If your sexting partner is making you feel uncomfortable (or maybe you just got a really important phone call mid-sext), don’t forget that you can revoke consent at any time. “It’s OK to tell someone to tone it down or for you to change your mind regarding how much you would like to engage in such an act,” sex therapist Patricia Lamas Alvarez, LCSW, tells mbg. You should even be wary of mentioning to others that you and your partner are sexting at all unless you’ve previously confirmed with your partner that they’re OK with this. You should also be mindful of sexting laws in your state and country, particularly if you’re underage. In general, be wary of sending any explicit imagery of your face. Try shooting photos from your mouth down so your partner can see your sexy lips without you having to worry about being too identifiable. “Some take the extra precaution of adding fake tattoos to their pics so that their body is even less recognizable,” sexologist Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., explains to mbg. If storing sexy images on your phone, try using a separate app so your nudes don’t accidentally get seen (or sent) from your photo app. Private Photo Vault or Secret Calculator are good options. Because your partner can’t hear the tone of your voice or read your body language, Harris suggests going the extra mile by using emoji, exclamation points, and adverbs. The heart and kiss emoji are a good place to start, and the heart-eye and drooling emoji are great for showing your partner how turned on you are by their words or images. It’s also never a bad time to tell your partner “you’re getting me so hot right now,” or “you are so sexy, it’s unbelievable.” See below for more examples of ways to show appreciation through words and emoji.  If something they’re mentioning via sext is really killing the mood for you, simply steer the conversation away from that topic or scenario by using a “yes, and…” approach and they should hopefully get the hint. For example, if your partner has mentioned tying you up and you’re not into that, you can respond something like this: “After tying me up, you realize that I want to use my hands to feel your body, so you untie me and let me get on top of you.” (Here’s more on how to deal with when your partner’s fantasies turn you off.) “Oftentimes, we make the mistake of sending too much too soon,” O’Reilly explains. “Part of what makes sexting so intoxicating is the escalation of eroticism and anticipation.” In fact, when sexting, you have even more leeway to draw things out and tease your partner because you don’t run the risk of getting too excited and moving too quickly as you might in person. Start out by describing the scene, your and your partner’s mindset, what you two are wearing, etc. You can even tease your partner by sending a super-steamy sext and then telling them to think about that while you go to the gym—and that you’ll send them a sweaty selfie when you get back.  RELATED: How To Talk Dirty During Sex, On The Phone & Whenever These are all things to think about before sexting someone new (and it’s never a bad idea to revisit this with your current partner). “It’s best to lay down a blanket negotiation for any kind of sexting in advance,” suggests Harris. “What language does each person like and dislike? What topics are off-limits?” If you feel uncomfortable having this precursor conversation to your sexting, you can try working this into your sexting conversations. For example, “Does it turn you on when I call you ‘Daddy’?” Of course, when asking in this context, your partner may feel more pressured to say yes in hopes of not hurting your feelings, so keep this in mind.  The more specific you are about what you want to do and how you want to be touched, the hotter things will be for your partner. “Get specific about what turns you on [and] what you would like to have done to you, as well as what you would enjoy from the other person in that moment,” suggests Alvarez.  If you’re not confident in your writing skills, think of the five senses when crafting your sexts, and think of things specific to your partner (such as their body, sexual preferences, or even their apartment setting). RELATED: 150+ Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend To Spark Conversation If you do want to show off to your sexting partner, play up the tease. Instead of sending your fully nude body in the mirror, send a close-up booty shot from below or a video of you running your hands down your body slowly. Sometimes wearing something skimpy (like a see-through T-shirt or skimpy underwear) can be sexier than being fully nude.  Also, don’t worry about taking an Instagram-worthy photo. Part of the appeal of exchanging sexy photos is the realness and rawness of them. Not to mention, knowing that your partner snapped a pic, especially for you is a big turn-on to some. “There is a reason amateur porn is often more appealing than high-budget films,” says O’Reilly.  Don’t be afraid to ask questions. For example, “If you could do anything you wanted with me, what would you do?” or “When you come over tonight, what should I be wearing to greet you at the door?”  Similarly, don’t be afraid to assert your own preferences so that your partner can learn about you, even if they’re not asking great questions. For example, “It would turn me on so much if you ate me from behind,” or “If you sucked on my balls, I would go wild.” RELATED: 21 Things To Do & Say To Have Good Phone Sex Remember that your sexting confidante is not expecting award-winning literature or photos. Part of what turns them on is knowing who’s behind the phone screen. 

  1. I can’t stop thinking about last night.
  2. I keep thinking about [insert sexual memory together]. It’s making me want to play with myself…are you free?
  3. I miss having you inside of me. 
  4. Remember when we did [insert sexual activity here]? That was so hot. 
  5. I don’t know how long I can wait until the next time you [insert sexual activity here]. 
  6. I was just thinking about how hot your [insert body part here] looked last night when you [insert sexual activity here]. 
  7. I just masturbated to the memory of you [insert sexual activity here]. 
  8. I can’t get you out of my head. 
  9. I miss making you come.
  10. I can’t believe it’s been two weeks since I’ve had your perfect ass in my face.  Future plans:
  11. Next time I see you, I want to [insert sexual activity here]. 
  12. I can’t wait to have my way with you tonight. 
  13. I’m counting down the hours until you’re inside of me. 
  14. When I pick you up for our next date, I want you to “forget” to wear panties. 
  15. Come over tomorrow night. I have a little surprise for you…
  16. I’m going to be a good girl for you tonight. 
  17. Will you lie back and let me pleasure you tonight?
  18. I’m going to have you naked as soon as you walk into my apartment.   Positive validation: 
  19. You have the perfect [fill in the blank]. 
  20. It feels so amazing to be inside of you. 
  21. I feel like you were created in a lab for me. 
  22. You turn me on so much. 
  23. I don’t think anyone has ever gotten me this horny solely through texts before. 
  24. I can’t control myself around you. 
  25. The way your body looks when you’re on top is so sexy. 
  26. I feel like you always know exactly how to turn me on. 
  27. I want you so bad. 
  28. I don’t know how much longer I can wait until we can do that in real life. Sharing fantasies:
  29. I watched this movie last night where the woman got tied up, and it made me so horny. 
  30. I just watched what might be my favorite porn video ever. Can I show it to you? 
  31. Can you recommend a good porn video? 
  32. I kinda wanna call you Daddy. 
  33. I had a dream that we invited another guy into the bedroom with us, and I woke up so turned on.  
  34. Whenever I think about trying anal with you, I get really excited. 
  35. If I’ve been bad, will you punish me? 
  36. I saw this remote control vibrator at the store today, and I want to try it with you on our next dinner date. 
  37. I was reading this article about pet play, and I want to tell you about it.  Thinking of you:
  38. You’re on my mind today. 
  39. Thinking of you and that perfect [fill in the blank]. 
  40. I woke up thinking about you after a dirty dream…
  41. I hope you have a great day, sexy. 
  42. It’s too bad you’re not here right now. I wish we could [insert activity here]. 
  43. I just got out of the shower, wish you were here to see me naked and dripping wet… Requests:
  44. I want you to beg for it. 
  45. Tell me what you were thinking about the last time you played with yourself.
  46. Say my name when you come for me. 
  47. Ask me for permission if you want to play with yourself. 
  48. Tell me what you want me to do to you. 
  49. Get over here ASAP! 
  50. I want you to be gentle with me. 
  51. Just lie back and let me make you feel good. 
  52. Will you grab my [insert body part here]?
  53. Bend me over your knee and spank me.  
  54. Tell me what a dirty girl I’ve been. 
  55. Let me suck you. 
  56. Tease me until I’m begging for more.  When you want to play:
  57. Ooh, someone’s feeling frisky today…tell me what you’ve been thinking about. 
  58. I was just thinking about you too. Would love to see what you’re wearing right now. 
  59. Someone’s being bad…do you think I should punish you?
  60. I would love nothing more than to watch you play with yourself over FaceTime. 
  61. That sounds like exactly what I want to do. Tell me more.  When you don’t want to play:
  62. OMG, you look so hot right now, but I have a client call in five minutes. Can we rain check ASAP?
  63. That sounds incredible and exactly what I wish I was doing, but instead I’m stuck on the subway and I don’t really wanna pop a boner here—can I call you when I get home tonight?
  64. That sounds amazing…can send a steamier response later tonight when I have more privacy. 
  65. You are insatiable and I love it. I can’t talk right now but will respond to this when I can.  When you want to play in a different way:
  66. That sounds so sexy…would you be down to FaceTime in a few minutes and show me what you’re talking about?
  67. Instead of going back and forth like we usually do, would you be into me describing a longer fantasy to you while you play with yourself tonight?
  68. Last time we did this was super hot, but I was wondering if tonight we can [insert idea here]? 
  69. I love when you send me photos. Would you be down to send a video so I can really see how you like to play with yourself?  When you want your partner to know how much they’re turning you on: 
  70. I am rock hard right now. 
  71. You’re making me so wet. 
  72. I think there’s literally a puddle underneath me after reading all your messages. 
  73. I would do anything to have you here right now so I could have my way with you. 
  74. When you talk to me like this, I’m not sure I can go three more weeks without you.  When you’re not sure what to say: 
  75. Mmmm, that sounds so hot. Tell me more. 
  76. What would you want me to do next?
  77. You’re so naughty, I love it. 
  78. I love it when you talk dirty. 
  79. You’re so good at sexting. Can you keep going?  When you want to be playful:
  80. I think I’m going to need a new pair of underwear after this. 
  81. If you keep texting me like this, I might have to fake sick and leave work early to masturbate.
  82. I just got a boner on the subway, so if I get arrested for public indecency, I hope you’ll bail me out. 
  83. I kinda want the guy sitting next to me to read your texts over my shoulder so I can brag about how great a sexter my girlfriend is. Quickies (be wary of sending these on their own, as your partner likely wants your equal participation!):
  84. Mmmm.
  85. That sounds so hot. 
  86. [Pretty much any curse word will do here.]
  87. You’re incredible. 
  88. Yes, please. RELATED: Your Full Guide To Virtual Sex: 23 Ways To Try It, Risks & Expert Tips While emoji can help add enthusiasm and excitement to your texts as we mentioned previously, you want to try to use them in a playful way so that they don’t come off as too corny. For example, if you want to say, “I can’t wait to suck your cock,” say that instead of subbing in the eggplant emoji for the word “cock.” Doesn’t that sound sexier? That being said, emoji can be a great addition to your compliments regarding sexy photos or one-liners your partner has sent. Saying “omg, you look so hot” seems even more complimentary when you add some drooling emoji on the end. Here’s a list of emoji that can play well with your sexts:  Now that you’ve got some new ideas, why not try shooting your favorite lover a steamy sext? We dare you. RELATED: The Ultimate List Of Kinks & Fetishes, Explained By Sex Experts

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