Whether you or someone you know is an ESFJ, here’s what to know about this type, from their love life to best careers, according to MBTI experts. As licensed therapist De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar, MSW, LCSW-S, CST, tells mbg, this type is sometimes referred to as the “consul,” which can be thought of simply as diplomatic, team-player energy. “They are seen as being really outgoing and observant. They take note of their surroundings and are in touch with their feelings,” she adds. And according to Koonz, “Warmhearted, empathetic, personable, conscientious, energetic, gregarious, cooperative, practical, and organized are some of the words often used to describe those with a personality preference for ESFJ.” As Hallett previously wrote for mbg, when it comes to MBTI compatibility, ESFJs would have over a 70% chance of compatibility with people who are also sensing-judging (i.e., ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, or another ESFJ). She also notes ESFJs can find a potentially good match in ENFPs and INFPs, as well. On the other hand, one type ESFJs may not mesh as well with is an ISTP. According to Hallett, loyalty and commitment are paramount to ESFJs. “Matched with an ISTP (logical thinker, less interpersonally oriented), roadblocks in relationships may center around the ESFJ’s need to be needed (since from the ISTP’s perspective, that’s an indicator of insecurity and a big turnoff),” she explains. But ultimately, as Koonz tells mbg, compatibility is much more than a matter of type. “We could be compatible with someone with the same preferences, or opposite preferences, or anywhere in between. It’s not differences or similarities that make us compatible; it’s taking the time to understand and appreciate our preferences that matter,” she says. “They would be someone who brings a lot of structure to things, and they’re good at getting what needs to be done, done—but they also need very clear and direct instructions, very clear hierarchies without a lot of ambiguity, to do that,” she adds. ESFJs want to ensure that others feel included, says Koonz, so they tend to be the individual that creates bonds in the workplace. “They are enthusiastic about onboarding new people, making meaningful connections, and upholding the company ethos,” she explains, adding, “While type preferences shouldn’t be used to limit or exclude someone from specific career paths (any type can do any job!), those with ESFJ preferences tend to choose careers that allow them to focus on the needs of others and determine how best to promote harmony or create a familial atmosphere in the workplace.” Little by little, their greater goal is to make a difference in the world. They are likely to be great team players and try to support their co-workers as much as possible. You can expect someone with this personality type preference to complete their tasks accurately and punctually. When in leadership positions, one of their main concerns is the emotional well-being of their teams as they’re constantly considering the impact of their decisions on people. Among the careers that are likely to be good choices for ESFJs are roles in medicine, education, nursing, counseling, and human resources. Blaylock-Solar adds that ESFJs often fall into situations where being practical or kind can be more of a liability than an asset. “So, making sure they are in trusting relationships before going all in, and making sure that foundation is there, will help them to then flourish in other areas of their personality,” she says.
