While dreams remain a somewhat mysterious function of the human brain, they’re undoubtedly fascinating. So, we asked experts all your burning questions, from why we dream every night, to how to interpret your last wonky nightmare. Here’s what to know. Dreams help us “process the emotion-laden events of the day and then store these memories in our associative web of memories,” she notes. This can explain why we have recurring dreams, she adds, as deeply emotional events like trauma or grief can take a while to process. And then, of course, we must take into consideration the idea of dream interpretation, which has been a part of cultures for generations. As professional dream interpreter Lauri Loewenberg explains, dreaming is still a “thinking” or neurobiological process. “So when we’re in REM sleep, you’re still thinking—but since your brain is working differently, instead of thinking in linear thoughts and words, you’re now thinking in symbols and emotions, metaphors,” she says. While the jury is still out on whether dreams actually “mean” anything (scientifically speaking), they do seem to help us work through difficult emotions, uncover truths about ourselves, and even spark creativity—anecdotally, at least. “If we look at our own brains,” he says, “we see during sleep the brain is doing a lot of memory triage.” The brain forgets some things, remembers others for the long term, and even mixes memories to get new ideas. “So it’s a source of new ideas and creativity,” he adds. And this, of course, happens at a totally unconscious, cell-based, memory processing level, Ribeiro notes. On top of the neurological processes at play, you have the dream level that’s symbolic and related to your life, he says. Dreams are often also highly emotionally charged, and for good reason. As Ellis notes, we tend to recall things better when we have strong emotions associated with them. “In dreaming, we appear to pull out those emotionally charged elements from the previous day or so and weave them onto our existing memories but also into a new kind of image or story,” she says. Doing this seems to reduce that emotional charge, “almost as if the emotion has done its job and can now fade,” she adds. But that doesn’t mean we aren’t dreaming, and Ribeiro makes the argument that anyone can remember their dreams better if they give them more attention. How often do we immediately start our day upon waking without giving our dreams a second thought? According to Ribeiro, this is probably the biggest detriment to remembering dreams. “In our society, there is no real space for dreams; people don’t talk about them. It’s so easy to recover the ability to remember the dreams—people just have to stop combating them.” This brings us to our next point. One of the best ways to do so is to keep a dream journal right next to your bed. Once you get in the habit of writing down what you can remember as soon as you wake up, “you’ll start to be able to use your dreams to track changes and take note when something in your dream life begins to transform,” she adds. Loewenberg notes that aside from the fact that journaling can help you remember your dreams, it also allows you to document “the other side of your mind—your deepest, most powerful, insightful, authentic, honest thoughts.” Curious to give the practice a try? Check out our full guide on keeping a dream journal. For a few moments, lie still, quiet your mind, and let the dream come back to you. Even if you come up with just a fragment of a memory or emotion, try writing it down next. “We need to talk about dreams when we wake up in the morning and tell people what we dreamed about. It should be part of our conversation,” he says. On top of what to avoid, you can work on what to prioritize, like having a set bedtime every night, keeping your bedroom dark and comfortably cool, or taking a relaxing sleep supplement for extra support.* (If you’re taking recommendations, here’s a list of our favorites.) The moral of the story is: anyone can remember their dreams with a little patience and practice—and it can happen fast. “I’ve seen it over the years,” Ribeiro adds, “if people focus on [all these things] for even a few days, they very quickly recover the ability to remember dreams.” However, he previously told mbg that these dream symbols are not meant to be taken literally but rather metaphorically. And further, the emotional components of a dream are often the most significant when it comes to understanding its meaning. When interpreting a dream, Naiman suggests feeling into the emotions it brought up, and thinking about when you may have felt like that recently, or even in the past. For more tips, check out our full 101 on dream interpretation, plus interpretations for 12 common dreams below: Just remember, it comes down to what you felt in the dream, so if an interpretation doesn’t resonate, you can always dig a little deeper. Ellis previously explained to mbg that stress dreams are—you guessed it—caused by stress. Nightmares, on the other hand, are often rooted in deeper fears and even traumas from our past. Also, Loewenberg notes, “Nightmares are terrifying to the point that they wake you up. They’re so intense and powerful, you jolt awake with your heart pounding,” she says. Most people, however, can sleep through stress dreams. “Stress dreams will be caused by something in your waking life that’s frustrating or stressing you,” she adds, while a nightmare will be caused “by something very, very difficult in your life, like a death in the family, trauma from the past, or something that is a huge jolt to the system.” And as Loewenberg adds, don’t let these dreams frighten you, but instead, welcome them. She believes that these dreams can actually help you with your most difficult issues—if you let them. After all, our nightmares are often connected to issues from the past that we never resolved, so they can alert us to any healing and processing that still needs to take place. Generally speaking, Loewenberg previously told mbg that dreaming about other people can help you process what you’ve gone through with that person, show you what you admire (or don’t admire) about them, or even shine a light on a part of yourself by presenting certain qualities through someone else. There are so many possibilities, so take a look at our explainer on dreaming about someone for more information on this. Most of us have lucid dreamed at least once, but it’s not something many people can do willingly—at least without practice. Nevertheless, Ribeiro notes he believes lucid dreaming to be “among the most interesting mental states that are available to most people,” with many Eastern traditions that place value on gaining full control over the dream experience. If it sounds like something you could get into, author of Lucid Dreaming: Gateway to the Inner Self Robert Waggoner previously told mbg some best practices for lucid dreaming, including: But as Ellis says, dreams are like an honest friend who isn’t afraid to tell you the truth—even if it’s painful. In fact, “They can become your great ally.”
