Also known as girl on top, cowboy, cowperson, or rider, this mounted position is pleasurable for all gender identities with the right accessories. The person on top can then insert the bottom partner’s penis, dildo, or fingers into their vagina or anus and proceed to ride their partner, simulating the movements of a horse’s bouncing motion. The person on the bottom is able to receive and use their hands while the person on top rides them both to orgasmic bliss. If you’re on the bottom, you still play a vital role. You can help match, rock, or gyrate your partner while you’re lying down. When their legs start to give out or shake a little bit, you can hold on to them for support and share in the teamwork by thrusting. “This is a fun way for the person who is penetrating to ‘bottom’ from the top or even to take control of the penetration,” she says. Violet suggests doing so by leaning back and stimulating your clitoris with your hands or vibrator. “This will give them a full-frontal of your vulva [which] can be such an erotic experience. Lean into the show you are putting on and allow that exhibitionist in you to be fueled.” She notes that it can be vulnerable to be on display, but instead of shying away from it, take this as an opportunity to own your sexual self. If the penetration is too much and it’s tough to receive the entirety of the dildo or penis, Violet advises adjusting until you find a relaxed position by leaning your hips forward and back. “A lot of folx G-spots or P-spots are at a slight angle inside the vaginal canal or anus, so some adjustments will most likely need to be made to hit that right spot. Take the time to do that before you start riding,” she adds. By continuing to lean into playful exploration, it makes sex fun for everyone involved. Stay adventurous and giddy up, cowboys and cowgirls.
