Love is equal part action and feelings, so it might be helpful to spend less time wondering if you love someone and more time performing the acts of love. If they don’t come naturally to you, that might be a sign in and of itself about how you really feel. It’s important to keep tabs on this, though. If these memories and comparisons are so pervasive that you can’t fully be present in your current relationship, that may be a sign you’re with the wrong person or that you haven’t given yourself the proper time to really get over your breakup. So if you find that your once-profound feelings of love start to wane a bit, that’s not necessarily a sign that you no longer love the person. The act of falling in love, she says, “is a chemical high that isn’t meant to last forever.”
