November 11 (11/11) is Twin Flame Day, so we asked relationships reader Nicole Bowman (aka Live the Light) to tell us everything we should know about this special type of soul mate. She’s one of over 4,000 community-vetted psychics and spiritual advisers at Keen.com who are available to chat with anyone seeking guidance and clarity on their career, relationships, even financial wellness. Read on to see our most burning questions answered below. (Just a fair warning, you may feel so intrigued you’ll want to get your own Twin Flame reading after this.) Often, genuine twin flame unions come together as partners to do some kind of service. A great modern example of that is President Jimmy Carter and his wife. Feminine energies wait, watch, plot, plan, and intuit; masculine energies go out and make it happen. Both are necessary in order for the world to go around, so a twin flame connection is about the merging of those energies. It can take many forms: a friendship, a mentor and mentee, even a parent and child. Twin flames can be different ages, races, religions, and halfway around the world from each other. Again, it’s why the romantic notion of twin flames is so mainstream—a lot of people just want to find that one person who feels like home in this world—but the paradox is that the twin flame connection is actually the opposite. A twin flame connection will shake up your soul. It drives you right into the heart of fear, makes you face it, and then makes you walk through it. Usually this person brings up your insecurities, traumas, fears, and things you’ve been struggling with and force you to deal with it if you haven’t yet done the work. Even if you have a clear sense of your own identity and are in a relatively healthy space when you meet, it can turn your world upside down. You might think you have all these plans—get married, have kids, live here, travel the world—but twin flame connections will usually be the exact opposite of everything that you’ve planned. It’ll cause you to question everything you thought you knew. There’s a need to do something for the community—like start a community garden so that people can have access to fresh food if you live in a food desert, or use their jobs in law and say, we need to figure out this justice system together. It’s less about the romance and more about how your partnership positively affects the planet and makes it a healthier world. A twin flame can also just come into our lives to remind us of who we are, and they’re not meant to stay. Sometimes that’s the lesson. The other benefit is that life of service in which you’re loving and supporting each other, but you’re also giving back to the world—you’re being the people that you say you are and doing it together because that’s the point.
