Too much masculine, and we get aggression and domination. Too much feminine, and we get disempowerment and stagnation. “Everyone has both the feminine and the masculine qualities—it’s not about what sex you are,” explains intuitive counselor and sacred space designer Elana Kilkenny. She adds that the place where these two sit in balance is a sweet spot that we should strive for in our day-to-day life. “The energy of the feminine embodies the nurturer, the healer, the compassionate peacemaker, while the masculine energy is focused on doing and achieving,” says spiritual author of The Self-Love Experiment Shannon Kaiser. “They’re meant to complement and support each other: They are the yin and yang.” The divine feminine is soft but fierce when necessary, loving, and supportive. As Kaiser notes, it’s the “paradigm of Universal Motherhood.” Again, don’t let the word mother throw you off—everyone can access their inner divine feminine, regardless of gender. “Through honoring the sacred feminine,” she says, “we find natural access to spiritual qualities like receptivity, patience, the ability to listen, and the care for all of life.” Here’s how you can start tapping into this energy in your everyday life: “In the power of the pause we can tap into the divine grace of the feminine,” she notes. Try sitting in silence for just five minutes. No music or distractions, just allowing yourself a moment’s rest. Kilkenny particularly likes Julia Cameron’s beloved Morning Pages technique, which involves writing three pages without stopping every morning. This practice can help you look within while tapping into your creativity—another quality of the divine feminine. Try looking in the mirror and saying “I am willing to activate the divine light within me,” Kaiser suggests. Further, practice “seeing yourself in the eyes of source energy, God, the divine, etc., which is one of the best ways to live in the energy of the sacred feminine,” she notes. “Dreams have a lot of symbolism that can connect with synchronicities and other things coming up with your life,” Kilkenny explains. “Noticing that, being aware of that, and being present enough to connect to that falls into the category of the divine feminine.” Yin in the home is very soothing, so Kilkenny suggests prioritizing lighting, colors, and textures that support a calming environment. “Treat this time as a sacred space for you to honor your own divine light,” she says. “Don’t cancel on yourself to do the laundry or more work—carve this time out each day.” “If you’re thinking about how you want to handle something in life, you can either grab the bull by its horns (which would be masculine), or it could be more about intuitive listening, and going inside first for an answer before turning it into action,” she says. The idea of ecofeminism is all about applying feminine principles to the efforts of sustainability and healing the plant. As Kaiser notes, “Embracing the sacred feminine is an indispensable contribution to the healing and transformation of the world. With qualities like receptivity, patience, the ability to listen, and the care for life, we can come together and unite in our humanity.” “It’s approaching things from a place of cooperation. How can we listen to each other, hear each other, come to a compromise perhaps?” she explains. “Grounding,” aka “earthing,” is one of the most transformational tools for awakening to your inner light, she adds. All you have to do is walk, barefoot, on the Earth. “Even five minutes of fresh air or a short walk barefoot in the grass can be enough soul food to awaken your divine feminine,” she says.
