Years ago, I went on a first date with a man at a lovely romantic restaurant. He ordered red wine for us, and no more than five minutes afterward, he started yelling at the waiter, demanding that we be served our wine. It can be tempting to bolster these wounded personalities, to try to “fix” them. But self-acceptance starts within, and you will likely end up hurting yourself and slowing their progress toward personal growth if you go down that road. We teach people how to treat us by accepting or rejecting certain modes of behavior and by demonstrating the way we treat ourselves. If you agree to enter into—or stay in—a business or personal relationship where at least one involved party lacks integrity, what does that say about you? It suggests that you don’t respect yourself enough to demand that other people treat you with integrity. It reveals you have a lack of healthy self-love. Integrity is vital to all relationships, and it starts with the relationship you have with yourself. If a difficult person or circumstance has appeared in your life, don’t look at it as a burden. Look at it as an opportunity to identify growth areas in your own life. Use it as a jumping-off point for healing. Appreciate it for the gift it is. Want more insight into your sex life? Learn about the six kinds of orgasms (and how to have them) and the two types of passion (and which one is good for your sex life).
