Today, there are literally thousands of sex toys on the market for couples to try together, so to help narrow it down, we asked sex therapists for their favorites. From toys to accessories, we’re sure something on this list might just be your new favorite addition to your sex life. Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator by Lovehoney, $49.99 Willa Vibrator by Trojan, $25.99 Play Mini by Bed Geek, $34.99 Unite Vibrator by We-Vibe, $104 Tiani 2 by Lelo, $149 Bionic Bullet 5 Function Vibrating Cock Ring by Lovehoney, $24.99 Deimos Cock Ring by JimmyJane, $125 Deluxe Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Silicone Dildos by Lovehoney, $54.99 Double Duty Vibrating Double-Ended Strap-On Dildo by Lovehoney, $69.99 Nora Rabbit Vibrator by Lovense, $99 Max 2 by Lovense, $99 Esca 2 by OhMiBod, $109 Liberator Sex Position Wedge by Lovehoney, $124.99 Fascinator Throw by Liberator, $155 Ohnut Set of 4 by Ohnut, $65 Tantrix Pleasure Sleeve by Trojan, $5.98 Anal Training & Education Set by b-Vibe, $150 Lip Gloss Personal Lubricant by Stay Sexy, $25 Brescia Unlined Lingerie by Adore Me, $24.95 Pleasure Pack of Condoms by Trojan, $7.99 Female Condoms by FC2, $112 for a pack of 100 Burn no. 0 Massage Candle by Maude, $15 Spreader Bar by Honey Birdette, $215 Chained Nipple Clamps by Adam & Eve, $23.99 Bondage Boutique Soft Over-the-Door Sex Swing by Lovehoney, $42.99 Weekend-In-Bed Lovers Bondage Kit by Adam & Eve, $39.95 Spicy Dice by Adam & Eve, $7.95 Monogamy Game Adult Board Game by Lovehoney, $29.95 As Balestrieri adds, “Our bodies are incredible vehicles for pleasure, but we can’t expect our bodies to do everything all the time, so sometimes it can be really nice to give our bodies a little bit of help and a break so we can experience pleasure without having to do all the hard work.” On top of that, exploring new things in the bedroom, whether new positions or new toys, opens up conversation between you and your partner about your sex life and what you both desire. It can be very intimate and help you two deepen your emotional and sexual connection. Balestrieri notes that incorporating toys can also help you find new ways that you (and your partner) can experience pleasure and reach new limits. “They allow for different kinds of sexual experiences and make taking each other to new limits a lot more accessible.” And, of course, if one or both partners is dealing with any sexual dysfunction, whether it’s lowered libido, erectile dysfunction, or pain during penetration, adding toys into the mix can make both partners very happy, Balestrieri tells mbg. “They take the focus away from penetration being the coup de grâce of sex and bring the focus back to what’s really important—which is all of the fun, pleasurable sensations, and just the adventure of being sexual together.” So if this is all new to you, start small with a bullet vibe, or even a blindfold, and see how it feels. No need to rush to the sex store and buy everything in sight! If you’re interested in exploring sex toys and want to bring it up to your partner, you don’t want them to think you’re unhappy with their performance or your sex life. “To the best of your ability, reassure your partner this isn’t about deficit,” Balestrieri says. “It’s about increasing sexual pleasure opportunities and connection between both people.” Bring up your ideas in a moment that’s neutral and nonsexual. Emphasize what you already enjoy about your sex life and how you want to add to it. Definitely don’t use phrases like “You never please me so we need this,” Balestrieri adds. “That’s not gonna be helpful.” If your partner does seem worried, she suggests reassuring them that you’re invested in both of you enjoying sex because you care about your relationship and your sex life together. Of course, remember to check your sex toy’s cleaning instructions, practice safer sex, and keep the communication between you and your partner honest and open.
